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January 4, 2005
The Dyke and the Fag Hag
Incidentally, I hate both of those terms, but I thought it would make a snappy title. I'm not even going to mention how I know the two women, but they used to be friends and now there's no small bit of bitterness between the two of them over some things that occurred last fall. I'm friends with both of them, however, and really hate being put in between them. I don't think either of them read my blog, however.
The point is, that there was a small responsibility that the dyke was supposed to be in charge of, but as a result of her leaving town for one of the hurricanes, she didn't take care of it. The fag hag took it as the dyke's shirking of her responsibilities, and was pissed off at the position she was put in as a result. It wasn't as big a deal as the fag hag thought it was, but nevertheless, the dyke blew it off and didn't even apologize, and the fag hag yelled at the dyke and after that they didn't speak.
Well, I ran into the fag hag recently, and she asked me about another arrangement between her and the dyke for something that was going to occur in 2005; to which I replied I didn't know anything. The fag hag contacted the dyke by email and by the time a couple of emails passed they were each accusing the other of being abusive.
I basically sent a “you're both wrong and can't we all be friends” email and heard back from the dyke about one small point I made in the email that was entirely not true and she was offended by my referring to her bad behavior. As if just because she didn't yell, like the fag hag did, she wasn't displaying bad behavior. I apologized if she was offended and let her know that we had two different opinions about what constituted abuse.
I think she was assuming that I meant that the fag hag wasn't being abusive. I actually meant that the dyke was being abusive, due to her negligence and unwillingness to accept any portion of the responsibility.
This is the dyke's pattern, however. She puts people in difficult positions and the moment they show their less-than-perfect side, they're out of her life. I've already seen it happen between her and a number of other people.
I really need to stay out of these things.
Posted by Bastique at January 4, 2005 11:13 PM